Random Thoughts...

We all know the human brain is a very complex piece of machinery, and at times it seems to have it’s own ignition, and the keys have been misplaced. Some days, we’re better at ignoring those involuntary thoughts, and on other days we can be lying in bed, literally telling our own brains to shut the fuck up. Some of us may even reflect on these thoughts and laugh, saying to ourselves: How the hell did I even allow myself to think that? Nonetheless, we have all been subjected to our minds playing tricks on us from time to time. (Insert Geto Boys sample here – another small, random thought… and now, I’m whistling it to myself as I type. Mother fuck!)

Well, I have devised a way to find fun in this little err of a trait we all share – whether some of us wanna admit it or not…

When did being dumb become trendy in epidemic proportions? Back in the day, the “coolest” mother fucker in class never knew shit about what was being discussed. It seemed like more of a put-on – for said mother fucker to not appear nerdy or not cool. Now, being dumbed down is so real that if one is not careful, it can rub off. Example: when H.W. Bush, Jr. used to give speeches. (I may have lost a couple of points on the ol’ IQ just listening to that shit.) Remember: “… families is where our nation finds hope, where wings take dream?!” Who the fuck was taking that shit seriously?! It must be the skinny jeans. Holding the nuts too close to the body damages sperm cells, and damaged sperm = birth defects. Bush, Sr. was rocking them shits back in his college days jamming to The Ramones, and now them things are back in style... Yeah, that's it. It's gotta be.

When did everybody get so damn sensitive? It must've started when these soft ass "parents" out there gave their kids band-aids whenever they cried for one. Then it snowballed into everyone gets a trophy. Awhile back, a friend of mine pointed out at everyone at his son’s science fair got first place – just for participating. What’s next? A Super Bowl where everyone gets a ring, and gets to hoist the Lombardi?! (God, I hope not. That would be the end of football as we know it.) Now people have the fucking nerve to ask where kids today get this sense of entitlement; like it’s their fucking birthright to everything on this planet, and not have to lift a finger to obtain anything. 

Get. The. Fuck. Outta here. 

What’s up with Trump’s hair? He’s got enough money to get hair replacement for his entire campaign staff. Let’s face it bub, that piece of roadkill up top there ain’t fooling anyone. Stevie Wonder can see that shit. Kill the bafoonery while you're at it, or yourself -- either one is fine with me, and many others as well. Only in America can it's fine, republican citizens hate immigrants, but condone the president's foreign wife. (Side note: y'all hated the Obama's for being black while in the white house... just admit it.) 

Also, basic bitches, (I wouldn’t want y'all to feel left out), do yourselves a huge favor: quit whining on social media. Chances are, there are more people laughing at your dumb asses, than people pampering your sorry behind with all the, “What’s wrong, baby…” comments. Besides, what kind of guy do you really expect to attract crying on social media?! While you're getting your Netflix and chill on, asking the 'book and Twitter where the real men are at, while doing the cliché posing-on-the-bathroom-sink-in-your-3-days-past-due-for-a-changing boy shorts for IG, you can rest assured that guy is not trying find you. He's more into women who are about net worth, skill, and fulfilling a life-long vision interdependently. (<--- Look it up!) Take that ass to work, school, or both––hit the gym while you're at it––and give Obama his phone back. I’m out! ✌

Be The Change

In these days, the world seems like it's being launched at full-speed into the depths of hellfire encased in a giant wicker hand basket. Many of us stare blankly at our phones, wondering if this ongoing trend will ever change. (Note: Bitching about it on social media is not going to change a fucking thing. Get used to it.) Using social media outlets is a great way to create a platform for many meaningful causes. While they can range from a personal level to a global scale, no matter what the size, it starts with putting down the phone and taking some kind of action. Otherwise: Your. Bitching. Is. Useless.

Let’s face facts. No matter what the case may be, any type of change requires action. Period! There really is no big secret behind it; we only act like there is. We choose this unnecessary complication in life. Currently, we are witnessing disturbing traits developing in people: lack of accountability and responsibility, false sense of entitlement, and when things don’t go our way, we have the audacity to kick back and wonder why “life sucks,”  and expect others to coddle us. (Especially here in the states. *sips tea*)

We choose to make life complicated. It could all be so simple... You want something? Go get it. Within reason, of course. (I'm not trying to have one of you cupcakes out there trying to sue me for taking my words out of context.) Want out that dead end job? Step up your education. Make small sacrifices to better yourself. Want that woman to be fond of you? Go talk to her. Have some confidence when you do. Want that guy to be interested in you? Stop being basic (especially on social media).

You want to see justice against atrocious injustices that hit close to home? Take a stand. Go protest — loudly. Vote. Petition. Write your congressman——something! Be about it; don’t just talk about it. Get off of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and heaven forbid, MySpace. (If you still get on MySpace, slap yourself——repeatedly.) Do something! Actions build pathways, while talking and/or typing goes in circles without a clear path to anywhere. It’s not a big secret, written on an ancient scroll buried in the sand... Just move your ass, and fucking do it!  

Happiness is a Choice...

"Happiness comes from within; looking anywhere else for it will be a set up for consistent disappointment." - Me :)

The turning of the new year undoubtedly causes many to self-reflect, and it's completely natural. We retrospectively examine our successes (and short comings), and tend to plan to make adjustments before the turn of the new year. Whatever we choose from there, being happy about those decisions must be a certainty. Going forward, the major component will always be infallible: happiness is a choice, and it must be a responsible and fulfilling one.

  A major thing to remember is: happiness is not an ultimate destination, but more of a path traveled through life. There are many paths that we can choose; this particular one is just another one to travel. However, traveling on this route does take practice. For many, getting accustomed to this path is most difficult. Just remember, our minds are like muscles, and walking along the happy path is like a workout—initially. We humans are habitual creatures, so it's a struggle at first because our senses are not accustomed to this path. But the more we walk that path, the easier it becomes, and our minds will become stronger and suited in happiness.

Another thing to remember: life will never—in a million years tacked onto infinity—ever be perfect. In general, it's a cold and cruel world we live in, but on a personal level, it doesn't have to be. People have the extraordinary power to be... well, extraordinary. The small choices we make regularly can and will make a big difference between happy, not-so-happy, and flat out miserable. Life itself may never be perfect, but simply by being choice conscious, our individual perceptions of life can and will be.

It may come as a shock to some, but it is absolutely imperative to know that personal happiness does not come from having a significant other. This person should only enhance happiness, and not be mistaken as the sole source of it. That's right! If we can't find it for ourselves—first and foremost—then it is totally redundant to fathom that we could ever expect to find it through someone else.  Negativity is more easily replicated than decimated. If an individual is miserable, that person will only influence misery; happiness can never be found in a potential mate.

One very important aspect of the road to exuberance is: we cannot take everyone along once we embark on this mission. Initially it seems ideal, but in a (Western) world full of unnecessary competition, your happiness will repel people like this; they're usually called "haters." Learn to accept that no matter what, people like this will always be lurking around, and some of them are the closest to us—for now. 

Not everyone is equipped for being happy, and not everyone genuinely wants to be, either. So why would they want that for anyone else? However, it's not necessary to answer this. Just love them from a distance, and hope they will embrace it for themselves one day. Maybe they'll catch up, maybe they won't. Just remember either way, we have no control over that.

My favorite emcee ever, Biggie Smalls, I think said it best: Mo' money, mo' problems. It's short and direct, but makes one uppercut of a punchline. That being said, it is also extremely important to remember that... No. Amount. Of. Money. Will. Ever. Buy. Your. Happiness. Period! Some individuals out there will snidely say something like, "That's something that broke people say..." Before this low-blow to the self-esteem is registered at the prefrontal checkpoint, just repeat the following as much as needed: happiness comes from within. 

If 'happy' cannot be manifested from inside to appreciate what we already have, no amount of money or material things will ever change this; it will only serve as a comparative metric to others. There are people who literally never have enough: their lives are shrouded with envy, but they're never satisfied. Don't fret. This type of behavior is not rooted in felicity, but rather a foolish attempt to fill some void through mere greed.

Take into account that individuals are solely responsible for owning happiness. Not momma, daddy, girlfriend, boyfriend, bff, husband or wife—you are. It takes immense changing of the mind, and sometimes surroundings and people, to embrace this. Rest assured that following this path will not only result in a happy new year, but many more happy new years to come.

Happy New Years, everyone! :)